so in one of the most stunning realizations of our time, my bf and i discovered that the “gamer girl” is the female equivalent of the “nice guy.”
battle cry of the gamer girl: “i’m not like other girls”
battle cry of the nice guy: “i’m not like other guys”
- are internalized misogynists
- feel the need to label themselves outwardly as “gamer girls” or “nice guys”
- define themselves by acceptance by the other sex
- define themselves by warped views of gender roles
- develop low self-esteem because of constant rejection
- change themselves based on what they believe the other sex wants
- end up pairing off with each other
A quick note on meat and ethics
Moral dietary choices do not exist in a binary of cruelty-free or not cruelty-free. As easy as it may be to label someone “vegetarian” or “vegan” and assume that these lifestyles are “cruelty-free”, it is really impossible to survive without harming others. Harm through eating meat is not the only kind of killing we commit/condone on a daily basis. We use cosmetics and medicines that have been tested on animals, we support corporations that in some way contribute to the harm of people or animals, heck, we kill bugs every time we walk/drive/etc. Where do we draw the line as to what living creatures have a right to live and what don’t?
We are all interconnected in this world, and all of our actions have consequences. However, this is not to say that a goal of cruelty-free living is futile and should be abandoned. It only means that how much we harm others exists on a spectrum, not a binary. Simply put, some people eat more meat than others. Some people harm others more than others. Our decisions to eat more or less meat (among other things) simply fall in line with all of our other moral decisions. I believe we should all strive to minimize cruelty in our lives to the best of our abilities. But the measurement of how much cruelty we inflict on others cannot be labeled easily.
how-i-met-my-awesomeness said: you’re beautiful!
dinodrifterdarsh said: THE ONLY THING OFFSETTING YOUR ATTRACTIVENESS IS THAT YOU ARE SIDEWAYS THIS MIGHT BE A CONCERN IN REAL LIFE FOR MANY MALES JUST TRYING TO GIVE POINTERS
hahha i will keep that in mind
things i wanna do that would upset my parents:
- dye my hair blonde
- get a huge back tattoo
- get my tongue pierced
I went on a cruise last week, and they did a game show based on “Dancing With the Stars” where passengers could sign up and 6 would be randomly paired up with a member of the crew entertainment staff to participate in a dance contest in front of a pretty big audience. My 18 year old brother was chosen and paired up with this drop dead gorgeous dancer. So they dropped the music, a bunch of standard pop tunes, and all the couples danced simultaneously. During the first dance, he followed her lead and kept his distance, which ultimately was his downfall because he was eliminated after the first round. The judges, all male, tore him a new one, saying he was too shy and “You do realize you can touch her more, right?”
They aired footage from the “Loser’s Lounge” backstage where a woman interviewed my brother, “You’re extremely handsome, fit, and seemed to have a great time. Where do you think you went wrong?”
And my brother said, “Well I got eliminated because the judges wanted me to touch her more. So obviously, they’re perverts” and brought the house down with laughter and applause.
The judges had to rush to defend themselves afterwards. So proud of him for making a statement in front of hundreds of people that a group of men can’t decide for a woman whether or not she “can be touched more.”
Hey everyone! I thought I’d fill you in a bit on what I’ve been working on lately.
I love to rep the companies I’m working for and as I repped Urban Outfitters and rue21 before, I’m gonna fill you in about what I’m doing now. I work for O’Hanlon, McCollom & Demerath Law Firm and I’m helping to launch and publicize their new website.
Last week, I helped to script and film an informational video that’s displayed on the front page of the website (link above) about how my firm enforces the Texas Prompt Pay Act, which compels insurance companies to pay healthcare providers on time. I was responsible for 100% of the editing. I’m really happy with how it turned out. Maybe you have friends or family in the healthcare industry that need help with late or underpaid claims or at the very least you can learn a little bit about the law and how insurance companies have been illegally withholding money from healthcare providers.
I’ll be working on writing my first press release soon, and I’m super excited about that. Also, stay tuned for a post about how my friendzone article landed me this job.
This summer, I will…
1. produce at least 2 tracks that I’m proud of
2. get published
3. re-learn Vietnamese
4. read the Bible
5. read at least 6 books
6. do paralegal work
It looks like I’m going to be pretty anti-social this summer. Luckily, I’m an introvert and it doesn’t really bother me. I’ve also just realized that most of the people I’ve met at this university are manipulative, opportunistic leeches who only want to see me if it is convenient and beneficial to their personal interests and have absolutely no qualms about consistently bailing on me if something even marginally more beneficial pops up.
On the one hand, it is flattering that people find me successful enough to attempt to ride on my coattails; on the other, I’ve become exponentially more distrustful and misanthropic as I see dishonesty more than honesty. It seems that people think it’s a waste of time to just hang out with someone for the sake of hanging out; everything has to further some goal. Everything is an investment. They’ve seen my growth trajectory and want to purchase stock.
I feel conceited even suggesting this, but I’m too perceptive a person to overlook people taking advantage of my generosity. When they do just enough nice things and flatter me just the right way before they ask for favors and then ignore me after they get what they want. And while I do want to develop a hard shell and play along in this game of manipulation, it is totally against my nature to have a friendship based on dishonesty. I have trouble compartmentalizing friends into those I can trust and those who will stab me in the back at the drop of a hat. How do I play along? How do I stop burning bridges every time I lose trust in someone? This is the one skill of the adult world in which I have fallen far, far behind. I’d rather have no friends at all.
Maybe I’m just being a child. Maybe it’s time to grow up and face the real world where people use each other and call it friendship and wonder why they’re lonely.
Omg :3 that is the face you made
hahaha it is my signature face!
also, thank you for all the well wishes you gave me. i posted my announcement about my new job right right before i left for the wifi-less chisos mountains and was very pleasantly surprised when i came back. i am very peaceful and happy right now. (:
so my friendzone piece landed me my dream job of doing marketing for a law firm. i’m actually in shock right now. thank you tumblr. the future is bright.