I like real people
I like real people
The people who know who they are
and know who I am
and know that they don’t need to change a thing
for us to get along
who know I’m different from their other friends
just as their friends are different from me
and don’t make me feel replaceable
with generic greetings and generic questions
who feel comfortable being themselves
who don’t try to be someone they know they’re not
because they know they don’t need to impress me
because they know they aren’t fooling me
because they know it’d hurt me if they stopped being that person I cared about
That person who let their guard down
and laughed at dumb things
and cried at dumber things
and knew that I’d love them no matter what
as long as they didn’t put up their walls
as long as they didn’t make me feel like just another person
as long as they were real to me
and to themselves.
What do you think makes two people compatible (in love and in life)?
When it comes down to it, I don’t think intellect, political or religious ideology or any of the things people seem to find astronomically important really determine compatibility. Some common interests like a passion for music or sports can bring some people together and get the flame started, but in many cases opposites attract and how can you explain that?
What makes two people compatible is their ability to always enjoy and treasure being around each other, trust each other, compromise, and sacrifice for the relationship. You can’t really rationalize why you love another person or write out a list of traits that makes a relationship “work”, and I guess that’s what they call “chemistry”. That’s why dating websites aren’t foolproof. There’s more to compatibility than the concrete.
I think if two people find it worth working through their differences to keep that chemistry going, they’re compatible.
Why do bad things happen to good people?
I remember when I was little I used to wonder all the time why a perfectly good person would get cancer or how a beautiful, talented singer could die in a car crash. Why would God, if he/she existed, do this?
Short answer: Shit happens. To everyone. No exceptions.
Long answer: This question holds the underlying assumption that in a perfect world, good things would happen to good people and bad things would happen to bad people as if every action and reaction in the world was the result of some Karmic game of Sudoku. The big flaw of course in this logic is that the world isn’t black and white. Nor is there a heavenly Supreme Court making fair and rational decisions about everything that occurs. The world consists much more of chance than justice.
It took me a long while to internalize the fact that there are no good people and there are no bad people. We are all complex beings with flaws. No one is perfect, nor is anyone wholly bad. And as such, every human being will indiscriminately encounter triumphs and pitfalls.
There is no cosmic force governing a reward or punishment system. We all inhabit the same earth, and we are all subject to chance.