In my experience, it seems like girls feel they’re expected to find masturbation and porn and having sexual desires repulsive. It’s surprising how many girls I know who, at age 18, claim to have never had an orgasm and pretend to not understand the concept of it and no one bats an eyelash. If a guy my age said this, he’d be made fun of ‘til the end of time!

It seems like a girl who masturbates is a freak or at the very least notably sexual. A guy who masturbates is normal, nothing notable about that. All these studies show that men have stronger sex drives and it’s just been commonly accepted to be the case. But sometimes I wonder if what women report to these studies is accurate. As a result of this widespread belief that women are supposed to be less sexual, many of us feel guilty when we have sexual desires, even guiltier when we satisfy them. So no wonder women report that they masturbate less! It’s a cycle. 

I believe that men have higher sex drives than women but I don’t believe we’re terribly far behind. Not to the point where not having an orgasm for 18 years should be considered the norm while being “sexual” is strange. Not to the point where we should be expected to remain virginal and pure until a man decides to “take our virginity” as if we have no independent sexual desire. Not to the point where we should feel guilty for satisfying our urges which at times (if maybe not as often) can be just as strong as men’s.

I believe female sexuality is very under-represented and, as a result, women are afraid to accept and explore their own sexuality.