Telling a guy the real reasons you’re not interested — you don’t find him attractive, he’s way too old for you, you get a distinctly creepy vibe off him, whatever — or offering no explanation at all, because you just met this guy and owe him nothing, would be “rude.” And thanks to the conditioning Harriet describes, exhibiting the slightest hint of “rudeness” to any stranger who approaches you with sex on his mind makes you feel not like a normal human being with healthy boundaries, but a mean, frigid, stuck-up bitch. Worse yet, sometimes, the same man who called you beautiful and offered to buy you a drink ten seconds ago will turn aggressive when you say you’re not interested; he’ll tell you flat out you’re a bitch, or a whore, or less printable things. He’ll reject your rejection by getting in your face and losing his temper. So really, it’s a lot safer and simpler to say, “Look, you’re a nice guy, but no thanks/I have a boyfriend/I can’t.
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Abortion should be legal because potential mothers are psychic.
I saw this political cartoon the other day and just had to comment on how absolutely stupid it is.
The picture seems to suggest that had Hitler’s mother aborted him, we could’ve prevented millions of people from being killed. That abortion should be endorsed because you could somehow be preventing the next Holocaust.
Yes, because so many abortions come from mothers who can see into the future and know they’re about to give birth to a child who will grow into an anti-Semitic dictator/mass murderer.
Now let’s imagine we live in some wacky, crazy world where we don’t know who we’re aborting when we abort our babies.
Where we’re just as likely to abort Hitler as we are to abort the doctor that discovers the cure for cancer.
What do you think makes two people compatible (in love and in life)?
When it comes down to it, I don’t think intellect, political or religious ideology or any of the things people seem to find astronomically important really determine compatibility. Some common interests like a passion for music or sports can bring some people together and get the flame started, but in many cases opposites attract and how can you explain that?
What makes two people compatible is their ability to always enjoy and treasure being around each other, trust each other, compromise, and sacrifice for the relationship. You can’t really rationalize why you love another person or write out a list of traits that makes a relationship “work”, and I guess that’s what they call “chemistry”. That’s why dating websites aren’t foolproof. There’s more to compatibility than the concrete.
I think if two people find it worth working through their differences to keep that chemistry going, they’re compatible.
