Just another sexist music video. Nice try, though…
Okay, so I’m probably a little late on this train, but I feel like saying something real quick on the “Blurred Lines” video by Robin Thicke. I would’ve dismissed it as just another run-of-the-mill sexist music video if it weren’t for the fact that both Robin Thicke and the director of the video somehow want to parade it as empowering and feminist????
The director said something like “The girls are looking at the camera. They’re clearly in a position of control. The guys are chasing them, and they’re rolling their eyes and running away!”
And Robin Thicke said something like, “It’s totally satirizing other music videos! We’re just making fun of all the taboos”
Oh yes, fully clothed, bafoonish men chasing after a bunch of naked women while singing “I know you want it.” GROUNDBREAKING!
Someone please explain to me how this video does anything but support the status quo. How many times have we been beaten over the head with the idea that women who say no are actually just “playing hard to get.” And that the guys who chase them are just silly, puppy-like boys being boys! How much more can we silence women and assuage mens’ egos by telling them “no” means “keep trying, you’re almost there!”
The women don’t have any power in this video because they’re still trapped in the game of sexual economics that forbids them from expressing their sexual desire in any way other than advertising their bodies like commodities and demanding a higher price.
In California, teen pregnancy has dropped 60% thanks to sex education.
Think about that, Texas. If you’re so concerned with women not having abortions, maybe you should take the steps to help them educate themselves about sex and pregnancy. That way they…
It’s so sad. The only thing we learned about contraceptives was that they were ineffective. I only remember being told that sex was a one way ticket to failure and misery… in a health class I shared with a pregnant girl. We had more than one abstinence only presentation that relied on pictures of herpes-afflicted genitals and dead fetuses to scare us out of having sex. Not once did they even acknowledge the existence of our raging hormones and what we ought to do about them. Only that sex is a process used strictly for procreation. I thought I was dirty and sick for wanting to have sex because it might feel good. They kept us in the dark and then released us into the world where the momentary shock factor of those images faded but our ignorance of safe sex endured. Not only does abstinence-only education give rise to unwanted pregnancy, it also engrains a (mostly religious) stigma in the minds of all children that can stunt their growth. It creates feelings of shame about even the very normal and healthy DESIRE to have sex, and that shame can manifest in self-destructive thoughts and behaviors later in life, especially for women, who are held to a double standard of “purity.” More than anything, I encourage you to talk about sex. ASK QUESTIONS! I didn’t learn a damn thing about contraceptives until I stepped on a college campus and finally had the courage to ask questions.
"Dewhurst called us an unruly mob. That’s funny cause the rest of us call it democracy." - Cecile Richards
but what about teh menz?? ):
Don’t mess with Texas women.
Kill the bill
As some of you may already know, Governor Rick Perry called a special session on July 1 to push SB5 through, a bill that would not only ban abortion past 20 weeks but force all women’s health centers in Texas offering abortion services to abide by regulations so expensive that all but 5 would be forced to shut down. Even though VIDEO PROOF shows that Republican senators tampered with government records to state that the bill was passed before midnight (a third degree felony), and 180,000 Livestream viewers and hundreds of protestors saw that a vote was not passed.
I and hundreds (maybe thousands) of other Texans will be protesting at the Capitol this Monday during special session. Please check out this Facebook event to see how you can get involved, from anywhere in the United States. Call the local press, donate to Planned Parenthood, order food for the protestors, blog about it, tweet about it, tell your friends and family, anything. Everyone needs to know what is happening in Austin right now. Everyone needs to know that Wendy Davis and the 13 million women in Texas affected by this backwards bill cannot be silenced.
Stand with Wendy Davis in her 13 hour filibuster against SB5, a bill that would effectively outlaw abortion in Texas
Outlawing abortion, regulating women’s health centers out of existence, and shaming women for their sexual choices will NOT lower rates of abortion. Removing resources for women will only lower rates of SAFE and LEGAL abortion. Comprehensive sex education and widely available contraception STATISTICALLY lower rates of unwanted pregnancy. Yet conservatives are not pushing for these initiatives. SB5 is NOT about making abortion rarer or making women safer. SB5 aims to assert an anti-sex, anti-egalitarian, anti-WOMAN moral agenda at the expense of not only women’s reproductive rights, but women’s access to any form of healthcare at all. The 117 pages of expensive regulations imposed on ALL women’s health centers offering abortion would be so prohibitive that only an estimated 5 could afford to stay open. Regardless of your opinions on the bill, please at least understand how this bill would affect ALL of the women (and men) in the 2nd most populous state in the United States. And please stand with Wendy Davis!
I went on a cruise last week, and they did a game show based on “Dancing With the Stars” where passengers could sign up and 6 would be randomly paired up with a member of the crew entertainment staff to participate in a dance contest in front of a pretty big audience. My 18 year old brother was chosen and paired up with this drop dead gorgeous dancer. So they dropped the music, a bunch of standard pop tunes, and all the couples danced simultaneously. During the first dance, he followed her lead and kept his distance, which ultimately was his downfall because he was eliminated after the first round. The judges, all male, tore him a new one, saying he was too shy and “You do realize you can touch her more, right?”
They aired footage from the “Loser’s Lounge” backstage where a woman interviewed my brother, “You’re extremely handsome, fit, and seemed to have a great time. Where do you think you went wrong?”
And my brother said, “Well I got eliminated because the judges wanted me to touch her more. So obviously, they’re perverts” and brought the house down with laughter and applause.
The judges had to rush to defend themselves afterwards. So proud of him for making a statement in front of hundreds of people that a group of men can’t decide for a woman whether or not she “can be touched more.”
(going off anons sex work q&a)
but doesn’t the sex industry perpetuate the culture of women’s bodies as a commodity? in other words why is the market for women’s sex work so much larger than the market for men’s sex work in first place? if i as a man were down on my luck i don’t think society would suggest sex work, but for women it often does. i understand the empowering side of it i just think its ripple effect ultimately damages the cause. sorry if i am being particular (or if you’ve shared thoughts on this before) i am interested in this topic because it’s one that is polarizing amongst feminist
I don’t find sex work either belittling or empowering. Nor is it necessarily only for women. It is simply a service that involves payment for sex. As long as there’s a market for sex work, I believe it should be legal and regulated. The fact that sex workers are primarily women isn’t a problem with sex work per se but the structure of society, which is a much more complicated issue to tackle. Roy Baumeister’s theory of sexual economics posits that women can get sex for free much easier than men can, so there is virtually no market among straight women for male prostitutes. I highly suggest looking into his theory if you haven’t already!
So no, I do not believe sex work is anti-feminist. Society is. And I think removing the shame and stigma attached to sex work will do more for women than perpetuating it by keeping sex work underground.